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i overthink everything. so i write about it

i'm pauline, i made sotie. my head has never really been quiet, so this is where i put the spirals into words. the 2am ones, the he-left-me-on-read ones, the why-did-i-say-that ones, and how i actually use sotie to climb out of them. if this sounds like your brain too, you're not the only one.

Pauline K.cofounder of sotie

want the app itself? it's right here.

2026-06-30how to stop overthinking at nightlying awake spiraling at night over the one weird thing from today? heres how to stop overthinking at night, get the spiral out of your head and follow one question at a time until it quiets.
2026-06-30how to stop spiraling over a texthe left you on read, or the reply went dry, and now youre spiraling over a text. heres how to stop rereading it 40 times and find the question thats actually underneath it.
2026-06-30anxious attachment and overthinking in relationshipstheir reply gets shorter and you spiral into everything thats wrong with you. heres the anxious attachment overthinking thing in relationships and how to catch it before it takes the night.
2026-06-30why do i overthink everythingwhy do i overthink everything, even when i know im doing it? because spiraling is how your brain tries to keep you safe. heres whats actually going on, and how i get out of it.
2026-06-30how to stop replaying conversations in your headhours later youre still cringing at the thing you said, running the conversation back again. heres how to stop replaying conversations in your head without forcing the thought out.
2026-06-30venting to chatgpt made me feel worseventing to chatgpt makes you feel worse because it just agrees with you? heres journaling vs venting to chatgpt, why getting asked the next question beats getting told youre right.
2026-06-30how to make a decision when you're stuckhow do you make a decision when youre stuck and overthinking every option into the ground? you stop hunting for certainty and find the one question your spiral keeps dodging. heres how i finally do it.
2026-06-30how to stop spiralingone tiny thing sets you off and now youre spiraling for hours. heres how to stop, not by fighting the thoughts but by following the spiral down to the one question underneath it.
2026-06-30what spiraling actually meanseveryone says theyre spiraling, but what does spiraling actually mean? heres what its really like from the inside, why a tiny thing takes your whole night, and how i get out of one.
2026-06-30why situationships make you overthinkwhy do situationships make you overthink everything? because theres no label to stand on, so your brain fills the blank with worst cases. heres whats really happening and how i hold it.
2026-06-30should you double textshould you double text, or is that desperate? heres the honest answer, why the spiral isnt really about the second text, and how to send it from you instead of from the panic.
2026-06-30am i overthinking or is it actually realam i overthinking this or is something actually wrong? heres how to tell a real gut feeling from an anxiety spiral, from someone who confuses the two constantly.
2026-06-30journal prompts for when youre spiralingstuck spiraling and your notes app isnt helping. these journal prompts for overthinking go under the spiral one short question at a time, not gratitude-list stuff.
2026-06-30an ai journal for overthinkingthe ai journal for overthinking. you write your mess, then follow one short question at a time until you can actually see whats going on. heres why i built it that way.
2026-06-30a private ai journaling appa private ai journaling app where your entries stay on your phone and the ai helps by asking the right next question. heres why i refused to put your spirals on a server.
2026-06-30a journaling app built on questions, not advicea socratic-style journaling app where you write first, then follow one precise question at a time until things click. no advice, no coaching, just the question you couldnt ask yourself.
2026-06-30a journal app that asks questionsa journal app that asks questions after you write, so you keep going until the thoughts, the anxiety, the noise start to make sense. heres why that one thing changes everything.